$600 total · 3 sessions
• The consultation is focused on a specific recurring situation, interaction, decision, relationship concern, or work problem
• The work starts with what actually happened and how the person experienced it
• Attention may include thoughts, feelings, physical experience, expectations, impulses, posture, hesitation, and interaction
• The purpose is to understand the situation more clearly, recognize participation in it, clarify choices, and experiment with different ways of responding
The package includes three private 50-minute consultations with Stephen Buehler, MA, MFT.
• The first meeting starts with one or two specific situations
• Later meetings return to what changed, repeated, was tried, or became noticeable
• The consultation may involve slowing down an event, separating observation from interpretation, noticing emotional or physical responses, examining competing perspectives, and trying different approaches
• There is no predetermined curriculum
Sessions are held live by video. After purchase, you will receive instructions for scheduling your three consultations and completing anything needed before the first meeting.
Common areas include:
• Difficult decisions and competing priorities
• Workplace conflict, leadership, and ongoing tension
• Difficult conversations, feedback, and disagreement
• Professional transitions, overload, and loss of direction
• Recurring patterns in important relationships
• Boundaries, assertiveness, and self-advocacy
• Responses or reactions that keep repeating
Problems rarely fit neatly into one category. Work, relationships, emotion, physical experience, personal history, organizational circumstances, and practical constraints may all be relevant.
The consultation can examine these different dimensions without assuming that the problem is fundamentally psychological or that it needs to become mental health treatment.
Individual Pattern Consultation is for adults who want focused help understanding and working with a specific situation, recurring difficulty, or pattern.
It can be useful in demanding work, relationships, decisions, transitions, or other situations where your own reactions have become part of what makes the situation difficult.
It may be particularly useful when:
• You understand the problem intellectually but still cannot change what happens
• Several parts of the situation seem tangled together
• Your own reactions are affecting your judgment or choices
• You keep repeating a response you already understand
• You want an experienced outside perspective on something specific
• You want to examine a situation closely and develop additional ways of responding
Package: 3 individual consultations
Session Length: 50 minutes each
Price: $200 per consultation / $600 total
Format: Live video consultation
Participants: One adult
Consultant: Stephen Buehler, MA, MFT
Scheduling: After purchase, you will receive instructions for scheduling your three consultations.
The three consultations are purchased together as one package.
They do not need to occur on consecutive weeks. Scheduling can reflect the situation being worked on and available appointment times.
Scope: Individual Pattern Consultation is a focused consultation service. It is not psychotherapy, mental health treatment, or crisis care.
What exactly is Individual Pattern Consultation?
It is a focused three-session consultation organized around a particular situation, interaction, decision, relationship difficulty, or recurring pattern. The work looks closely at what is happening and how you are participating in it so that additional choices and responses can become available.
What actually happens during a consultation?
We begin with a specific situation rather than a broad assessment. We may slow down what happened, distinguish observation from interpretation, notice emotional or physical responses, examine expectations and competing needs, and experiment with different ways of approaching the situation.
What do phenomenological and embodied mean here?
The consultation pays attention to more than thoughts and explanations. Attention, emotion, physical response, expectation, impulse, hesitation, posture, relationships, and practical circumstances may all be relevant. When useful, Stephen may invite closer observation or a simple experiment to clarify part of the situation.
Do I need to know exactly what I want to work on?
No. You should have a situation, decision, relationship, question, or recurring difficulty that you want to examine, but you do not need to know why it is happening or what should change.
What should I bring to the first meeting?
One or two specific examples are usually enough. This could be a conversation, decision, conflict, work situation, relationship interaction, piece of feedback, or moment when you noticed yourself responding in a way you want to understand better.
Can I use this for work, relationship, or personal situations?
Yes. The consultation can focus on professional situations, leadership and workplace problems, relationships, boundaries, decisions, transitions, recurring reactions, or other everyday difficulties that fit the consultation format.
Is the consultation confidential?
Consultation discussions are treated as private. Information about confidentiality, its limits, communication practices, and how information is handled will be provided before the consultation begins.
What if the issue changes during the three meetings?
The focus can shift if another interaction, question, decision, or problem becomes more useful to examine, as long as it remains within the scope of the consultation.
Can I continue after the three consultations?
The package is intentionally limited to three meetings. Near the end, you and Stephen can discuss whether the immediate work feels complete or whether another service or program would be useful.
Stephen Buehler has more than 20 years of experience as a psychotherapist and 30 years of work across consulting, facilitation, and organizational settings. His work focuses particularly on what happens during difficult interactions—how emotion, interpretation, bodily response, attention, and relational patterns begin shaping one another.
His approach draws from Gestalt therapy, relational and group-process traditions, and embodied approaches to experience, including long-term study and practice influenced by Stanley Keleman’s Formative Psychology®. He has also spent more than two decades consulting with healthcare leaders, teams, and organizations around conflict, workplace relationships, crisis, burnout, and other complex human situations.
In Individual Pattern Consultation, Stephen helps people examine recurring situations more precisely, recognize patterns in how they respond, and experiment with additional ways of acting, communicating, and making choices.
